So my band has a issue with our singer. It's been going on for awhile now and it's coming to a head soon. I'll just list the things we are dealing with and see if I can get some feedback/opinions
- Unreliable transportation. They have gone through 4 cars in 6 years. This in turn puts unnecessary stress on the other band members when we are on time to the gig but she is running late because she had to borrow a car or even worse Uber to a gig. We then have to talk to the sound guy and let him know that we won't be able to do a complete soundcheck because of her lateness. At clubs/casinos this is a very very bad look. She's also been so late because of car problems that she almost missed the first dance songs at a wedding we were performing at. And just last gig she showed up 20 minutes before we were suppose to start when I sent a note out 3 days prior saying that the venue specifically says to be there 1 hour before we start.
- She doesn't know how to sacrifice things and she's awful with her money. She will drive an hour and a half to the beach to hang out with her friends on a Sunday and spend money on drinks/food/tolls or tickets to have her car put on the Ferry to get from one beach town to the other but then might not make it to the gig or rehearsal because her car is fucked. Instead of just staying at home on a day off and saving that money and putting it towards her car issues, she has super bad FOMO (Fear of Missing Out) and needs to go out and enjoy herself or be seen.
- Bad attitude. She does not take criticism well and gets defensive anytime you tell her what to do. We want to add new songs and flush out the older songs that we play that don't really get a response or are just outplayed. We tell her this and her first thing is to mention we should bring back a song that is 10+ years old when we literally just discussed moving forward with newer content for songs. She says she doesn't "understand" why we have this plan. We are a cover band. If we don't keep it fresh, then other bands will and we will get left behind. She was late to a acoustic duo gig 2 weeks ago and she didn't even apologize to the guitar player until AFTER the gig in a text. And the apology wasn't even a good one. She showed up at 6:05, the gig started at 6:00. Her text read "Sorry for the tardiness but also not sorry...LOL i was due to the there at 5:15!!!!"
- Lack of professionalism. We write setlists and tape them somewhere that is easily seen by the band members. Mine is usually on my mic stand or somewhere in my direct line of sight. Our keyboardist has his taped to his keyboards. Drummers is on his laptop usually. Our singer doesn't do that and just walks over to the keyboards while she's in the middle of a song and starts looking at what songs are next. It looks awful. She needs to be interacting with the crowd but she's looking at the setlist like she's deciding on what to get off a menu at a fine dining place while trying to sing a Whitney Houston song. Lately she's been refusing to sing certain songs. She said she doesn't want to sing "Respect" by Aretha Franklin. That's one of our best songs. The crowds love it and we do it well. She said her voice hurts. To me that means she's not taking care of her tool that she uses in the band. If I said I couldn't play Sweet Child O Mine because my guitar doesn't work properly, everyone would look at me and tell me to figure it out. We can not stop playing our best songs because you aren't taking care of your voice. Also we all use IEM (In Ear Monitors). We've been using them for about 5 years now. For some reason she has just decided to not use hers anymore. She never told anybody she was going to do this or gave a reason. We played a wedding a few weeks ago with a sound guy we use often. He knows our setup. We run our own in ear monitors and he just has to worry about front of house sound. Well she shows up without her earbuds and the sound guy doesn't have any monitors because he doesn't need them when he does sound for us. So now she can't hear herself that well and is out of key on certain songs. She even crouched down next to my amp cabinet to try and find the key but was still completely wrong. Also we run a laptop with a click and some samples. If she can't hear that then she will be coming in late for certain songs. And even if there was a stage monitor for her, we can't run click to that because then the crowd would hear the click track too.
So we are planning on having a meeting with her. It was suppose to happen 2 weeks ago at rehearsal but we had to cancel rehearsal because of her car issues. Last night we were suppose to rehearse and have the talk but guess what, cancelled because of her car issues again! I write this long winded post to see what your guys thoughts/opinions are on this. What would you do/suggest? Have any of you been in a similar situation? How did you handle it? How did it go? Did you get rid of said person or try and work it out?
- Thanks!
- Unreliable transportation. They have gone through 4 cars in 6 years. This in turn puts unnecessary stress on the other band members when we are on time to the gig but she is running late because she had to borrow a car or even worse Uber to a gig. We then have to talk to the sound guy and let him know that we won't be able to do a complete soundcheck because of her lateness. At clubs/casinos this is a very very bad look. She's also been so late because of car problems that she almost missed the first dance songs at a wedding we were performing at. And just last gig she showed up 20 minutes before we were suppose to start when I sent a note out 3 days prior saying that the venue specifically says to be there 1 hour before we start.
- She doesn't know how to sacrifice things and she's awful with her money. She will drive an hour and a half to the beach to hang out with her friends on a Sunday and spend money on drinks/food/tolls or tickets to have her car put on the Ferry to get from one beach town to the other but then might not make it to the gig or rehearsal because her car is fucked. Instead of just staying at home on a day off and saving that money and putting it towards her car issues, she has super bad FOMO (Fear of Missing Out) and needs to go out and enjoy herself or be seen.
- Bad attitude. She does not take criticism well and gets defensive anytime you tell her what to do. We want to add new songs and flush out the older songs that we play that don't really get a response or are just outplayed. We tell her this and her first thing is to mention we should bring back a song that is 10+ years old when we literally just discussed moving forward with newer content for songs. She says she doesn't "understand" why we have this plan. We are a cover band. If we don't keep it fresh, then other bands will and we will get left behind. She was late to a acoustic duo gig 2 weeks ago and she didn't even apologize to the guitar player until AFTER the gig in a text. And the apology wasn't even a good one. She showed up at 6:05, the gig started at 6:00. Her text read "Sorry for the tardiness but also not sorry...LOL i was due to the there at 5:15!!!!"
- Lack of professionalism. We write setlists and tape them somewhere that is easily seen by the band members. Mine is usually on my mic stand or somewhere in my direct line of sight. Our keyboardist has his taped to his keyboards. Drummers is on his laptop usually. Our singer doesn't do that and just walks over to the keyboards while she's in the middle of a song and starts looking at what songs are next. It looks awful. She needs to be interacting with the crowd but she's looking at the setlist like she's deciding on what to get off a menu at a fine dining place while trying to sing a Whitney Houston song. Lately she's been refusing to sing certain songs. She said she doesn't want to sing "Respect" by Aretha Franklin. That's one of our best songs. The crowds love it and we do it well. She said her voice hurts. To me that means she's not taking care of her tool that she uses in the band. If I said I couldn't play Sweet Child O Mine because my guitar doesn't work properly, everyone would look at me and tell me to figure it out. We can not stop playing our best songs because you aren't taking care of your voice. Also we all use IEM (In Ear Monitors). We've been using them for about 5 years now. For some reason she has just decided to not use hers anymore. She never told anybody she was going to do this or gave a reason. We played a wedding a few weeks ago with a sound guy we use often. He knows our setup. We run our own in ear monitors and he just has to worry about front of house sound. Well she shows up without her earbuds and the sound guy doesn't have any monitors because he doesn't need them when he does sound for us. So now she can't hear herself that well and is out of key on certain songs. She even crouched down next to my amp cabinet to try and find the key but was still completely wrong. Also we run a laptop with a click and some samples. If she can't hear that then she will be coming in late for certain songs. And even if there was a stage monitor for her, we can't run click to that because then the crowd would hear the click track too.
So we are planning on having a meeting with her. It was suppose to happen 2 weeks ago at rehearsal but we had to cancel rehearsal because of her car issues. Last night we were suppose to rehearse and have the talk but guess what, cancelled because of her car issues again! I write this long winded post to see what your guys thoughts/opinions are on this. What would you do/suggest? Have any of you been in a similar situation? How did you handle it? How did it go? Did you get rid of said person or try and work it out?
- Thanks!