WARNING!!!! Kind of long rant below.
Well tonight I kicked my singer to the curb. We have an acoustic duo. I play guitar and sing a little and she sings. We do covers only. She just wasn't taking it as serious as I was. She wouldn't learn the correct lyrics, she would just stand there and read off of a lyric sheet, she would lie about her car being broke so she didn't have to practice, and she said she can't do a gig after I put it in the calendar months in advance because she has spring break plans now. Then I'd have to find a fill in singer, make sure all the songs were in the right keys for the replacement singer, and email/call the bars where we booked the gigs and tell them that I'll be playing with a fill in girl and not the girl they hired from the duo. She would unplug stuff while still at full volume and then get mad at ME when I told her never to do that. She would forget her cables and mic stand, and never promote us on Facebook until the very night of the gig. Tonight she even grabbed my arm when I'm playing the bridge part of the song and wanted me to stop playing and playing it differently (which we've never done before) so I promptly yanked my arm away and kept playing the way we've been playing it 100 times. She texted me Monday after I said that she really needs to be more organized with her stuff because she's putting me in bad situations with getting fill ins. Here is her exact text back....
"Tom, I'm seriously getting tired of you ragging on me about shit.... Out of the 8 or 9 gigs we have, 2 of them require fill ins. I don't really think it's going to be that big of a deal. I'm sorry I'm not organized to the T and I'm sorry I can't give up my life to put gigging first but I've got a lot going on right now and I don't need to be told how to plan my life....Take it or leave it."
That last line, "Take it or leave it", really hit me as disrespectful. So I finally made a decision and kicked her out after our gig tonight which she did not take well at all. She said I should've gave her a chance to redeem herself (which I have been this whole time by telling her what she needs to do and not do). She said I should've let her know it was our last gig and that and I'm a ....ing asshole. She doesn't get how this business actually works and I told her that we just aren't on the same page. I was totally calm the whole time and she was shouting out front of the bar by my car and "couldn't believe me" or that "I hope you sleep well tonight".
There's money to be made doing this and I take it pretty seriously. Yeah it's a ton of fun, but it is a job and if she isn't showing effort into learning how Sweet Home Alabama goes or any type of professionalism then I see no point in keeping her around. We've been gigging for a year and a half and she still has to read lyrics off a sheet to a song we've been playing since day 1.
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Well tonight I kicked my singer to the curb. We have an acoustic duo. I play guitar and sing a little and she sings. We do covers only. She just wasn't taking it as serious as I was. She wouldn't learn the correct lyrics, she would just stand there and read off of a lyric sheet, she would lie about her car being broke so she didn't have to practice, and she said she can't do a gig after I put it in the calendar months in advance because she has spring break plans now. Then I'd have to find a fill in singer, make sure all the songs were in the right keys for the replacement singer, and email/call the bars where we booked the gigs and tell them that I'll be playing with a fill in girl and not the girl they hired from the duo. She would unplug stuff while still at full volume and then get mad at ME when I told her never to do that. She would forget her cables and mic stand, and never promote us on Facebook until the very night of the gig. Tonight she even grabbed my arm when I'm playing the bridge part of the song and wanted me to stop playing and playing it differently (which we've never done before) so I promptly yanked my arm away and kept playing the way we've been playing it 100 times. She texted me Monday after I said that she really needs to be more organized with her stuff because she's putting me in bad situations with getting fill ins. Here is her exact text back....
"Tom, I'm seriously getting tired of you ragging on me about shit.... Out of the 8 or 9 gigs we have, 2 of them require fill ins. I don't really think it's going to be that big of a deal. I'm sorry I'm not organized to the T and I'm sorry I can't give up my life to put gigging first but I've got a lot going on right now and I don't need to be told how to plan my life....Take it or leave it."
That last line, "Take it or leave it", really hit me as disrespectful. So I finally made a decision and kicked her out after our gig tonight which she did not take well at all. She said I should've gave her a chance to redeem herself (which I have been this whole time by telling her what she needs to do and not do). She said I should've let her know it was our last gig and that and I'm a ....ing asshole. She doesn't get how this business actually works and I told her that we just aren't on the same page. I was totally calm the whole time and she was shouting out front of the bar by my car and "couldn't believe me" or that "I hope you sleep well tonight".
There's money to be made doing this and I take it pretty seriously. Yeah it's a ton of fun, but it is a job and if she isn't showing effort into learning how Sweet Home Alabama goes or any type of professionalism then I see no point in keeping her around. We've been gigging for a year and a half and she still has to read lyrics off a sheet to a song we've been playing since day 1.
Sorry for the long story, had to vent a little and wanted to maybe start a discussion about it
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