texshred777
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To clarify my issue isn't with her or the new guy at all. I'm happy for them and I get along great with my ex wife. No drama at all so I feel lucky in that regard.
Why are you mad right now?
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PunkBillCarson
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Something tells me there may not be drama now, but might be if you ask to claim your own kid.
MoshJosh
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Got a D on a writing assignment after putting a fair amount of effort into it!!! In the end its my fault for not following the rubric closely enough, but still sucks. On the Bright side I got an A in the class so eh. . .
There's this one guy that I've had quite a few courses with, and he is driving me nuts this semester. He's both an opportunist and quite a creep, and I'm both angry and spooked out. I decided to ignore red flags upon first meeting him and I gave him the benefit of the doubt, and it's come around to kick me in the ass.
He's a lazy f*ck who won't come to class because he's being a lazy sh*t and who will leave the class halfway through because "he can't concentrate" and then asks for my notes. He'd literally be 3-4 hours late, on repeated occasions, when we set up a time to go to university to study together, and then he'd just sit down and start reading manga online and browsing Facebook. Then he'd just mooch off of the work I did while he wasn't there.
On top of that, he seems to think I'm his best friend now and calls me late at night (past midnight) just to see what I'm doing, and he'll just self-invite to my place and would want to do something every f*cking day. He thinks that an invitation (read: a self-invitation that I approved) to come to my place to study is synonymous with coming to my place and being a couch potato.
He'll text me "hey man what u up to?" at 2pm on a Wednesday before class, when I'm just sitting on my desk still in my underwear watching Netflix and eating instant noodles before I have to leave for class. I tell him exactly what I am doing, and he just goes "mind if I join u?" Like, dude, come on, I am currently half brain dead and just overall being a completely idle waste of space before I have to begin getting ready, (and so does he, we have class together) why would you want to join me doing that? Piss off, watch your own TV at home and let me be before I head to school.
Before, he'd give me rides from school to my place, and he'd begin telling me extremely personal things (most of which are things that have left me feeling pretty uncomfortable.
) and I just won't reciprocate, and sometimes I'll even tell him I don't wanna hear it. But he'll carry on. I refuse his offers to take me home these days.
He's said some things recently that have made me suspicious, maybe even paranoid, and I fear he's taking a liking to me just a little bit too much, despite his constant inappropriate commentary on gay people. (Which pisses me the f*ck off, btw, and which I have kept very cool about, trying to rebut his arguments in as rational and non-confrontational a manner as I possibly can.) I am normally extremely flattered and sympathetic when I know someone likes me, and I try to be very considerate of that person's feelings, but he's been creeping me out way too much the past couple of weeks for me to give a sh*t that way, assuming my suspicions are correct. (I've brought this to the attention of a couple of my actual closest friends and they seem to think the same.)
I had an exchange via text with him a little while ago while I was in class (and he wasn't, as usual) that creeped me the f*ck out. He wanted me to meet up with him after class so he could copy my notes. Not wanting a confrontation but also not wanting to come across as a d!ck, (which I don't think I should even care for at this point) I told him to come during the 5-minute break we always have during class. He said he wasn't at school, (which is odd because he'd just texted me he could come 'now', and to which I replied that the class was still ongoing) and asked if I could meet him the day after so he could get my class notes. I'm already kinda creeped out by his pushiness, and I tell him I can just take pictures of my notes and send them to him, and that way it was easier for me and for him. Then he just goes "or I can pass by ur place after to take notes/pics?" and I get even more frustrated. Why on f*cking Earth do you want to see me SO bad?! I just told him that I wasn't gonna spend the night at my place, and that I was going somewhere else. Then he says "Oh ok, sure, send me the pics. Btw, do you mind if I give you a call when you are done with class?" At this point, I'm pretty freaked out, and I'm having trouble concentrating in class. Now, my family is currently in town visiting me and my sister, so I just used the excuse that I'd be with family and that I couldn't speak, and I asked him straight up what he wanted. He just answers "Sorry, just wanted to ask u what kind of stuff we covered tonight in class... forget that then haha." and I can't help but still be freaked out and think he was just covering his ass and not telling me what's up. Surely you'd find out what we covered in class when I sent you the damn notes, what the hell do you actually want?! But I left it at that. I did send him the pics after a while of me coming home, and he said thanks in an awfully cheerful manner and offered to buy me a beer soon. Not even gonna answer that.
Knowing the stuff he's done, the way he is with other people, and from the way he talks about the stuff he does, it's getting to the point where I feel like he just stalks me and is obsessed with me in one way or another. It's pretty unsettling. He stresses me the sh*t out, and if he keeps being this damn pushy and creepy I'm gonna have to break out of my usual calm character and straight up tell him to f*ck off. I have zero interest in making a person like that close to me. He plays a bit of guitar and he tried my little Blackstar Fly 3 at some point before he truly creeped me out (awesome little amp for the price, btw) and he liked it. He casually said to me a few days later "yeah, I should come to your house more often to play through your amp-" which I interrupted with "OOORRR, or... you could get your own amp and play in your own house," which is an awfully edgy thing for me to say to someone. He noticed my unhappiness, but he hasn't quite gotten the hint yet though.
He also smells like vegetables that are going bad. It's not a nice odour and it hangs around for a while. Talks way too much about masturbation (funny how SSO banned that word) and about his porn fetishes. He also came to me the morning after the first time he payed for sex and how he felt really guilty and lonely, and went into explicit detail about the kind of prostitute he "ordered," how he couldn't finish and how had to finish himself off after she left, and about the things he did to her and what he wanted to do. That was kind of the straw that broke the camel's back for me.
Sorry for all the verbal diarrhea, but this has me pretty upset recently.
I feel for all the people out there who have actual, real, proven stalkers. I hope it doesn't come to that for me.
He's a lazy f*ck who won't come to class because he's being a lazy sh*t and who will leave the class halfway through because "he can't concentrate" and then asks for my notes. He'd literally be 3-4 hours late, on repeated occasions, when we set up a time to go to university to study together, and then he'd just sit down and start reading manga online and browsing Facebook. Then he'd just mooch off of the work I did while he wasn't there.
On top of that, he seems to think I'm his best friend now and calls me late at night (past midnight) just to see what I'm doing, and he'll just self-invite to my place and would want to do something every f*cking day. He thinks that an invitation (read: a self-invitation that I approved) to come to my place to study is synonymous with coming to my place and being a couch potato.
He'll text me "hey man what u up to?" at 2pm on a Wednesday before class, when I'm just sitting on my desk still in my underwear watching Netflix and eating instant noodles before I have to leave for class. I tell him exactly what I am doing, and he just goes "mind if I join u?" Like, dude, come on, I am currently half brain dead and just overall being a completely idle waste of space before I have to begin getting ready, (and so does he, we have class together) why would you want to join me doing that? Piss off, watch your own TV at home and let me be before I head to school.
Before, he'd give me rides from school to my place, and he'd begin telling me extremely personal things (most of which are things that have left me feeling pretty uncomfortable.
) and I just won't reciprocate, and sometimes I'll even tell him I don't wanna hear it. But he'll carry on. I refuse his offers to take me home these days.He's said some things recently that have made me suspicious, maybe even paranoid, and I fear he's taking a liking to me just a little bit too much, despite his constant inappropriate commentary on gay people. (Which pisses me the f*ck off, btw, and which I have kept very cool about, trying to rebut his arguments in as rational and non-confrontational a manner as I possibly can.) I am normally extremely flattered and sympathetic when I know someone likes me, and I try to be very considerate of that person's feelings, but he's been creeping me out way too much the past couple of weeks for me to give a sh*t that way, assuming my suspicions are correct. (I've brought this to the attention of a couple of my actual closest friends and they seem to think the same.)
I had an exchange via text with him a little while ago while I was in class (and he wasn't, as usual) that creeped me the f*ck out. He wanted me to meet up with him after class so he could copy my notes. Not wanting a confrontation but also not wanting to come across as a d!ck, (which I don't think I should even care for at this point) I told him to come during the 5-minute break we always have during class. He said he wasn't at school, (which is odd because he'd just texted me he could come 'now', and to which I replied that the class was still ongoing) and asked if I could meet him the day after so he could get my class notes. I'm already kinda creeped out by his pushiness, and I tell him I can just take pictures of my notes and send them to him, and that way it was easier for me and for him. Then he just goes "or I can pass by ur place after to take notes/pics?" and I get even more frustrated. Why on f*cking Earth do you want to see me SO bad?! I just told him that I wasn't gonna spend the night at my place, and that I was going somewhere else. Then he says "Oh ok, sure, send me the pics. Btw, do you mind if I give you a call when you are done with class?" At this point, I'm pretty freaked out, and I'm having trouble concentrating in class. Now, my family is currently in town visiting me and my sister, so I just used the excuse that I'd be with family and that I couldn't speak, and I asked him straight up what he wanted. He just answers "Sorry, just wanted to ask u what kind of stuff we covered tonight in class... forget that then haha." and I can't help but still be freaked out and think he was just covering his ass and not telling me what's up. Surely you'd find out what we covered in class when I sent you the damn notes, what the hell do you actually want?! But I left it at that. I did send him the pics after a while of me coming home, and he said thanks in an awfully cheerful manner and offered to buy me a beer soon. Not even gonna answer that.
Knowing the stuff he's done, the way he is with other people, and from the way he talks about the stuff he does, it's getting to the point where I feel like he just stalks me and is obsessed with me in one way or another. It's pretty unsettling. He stresses me the sh*t out, and if he keeps being this damn pushy and creepy I'm gonna have to break out of my usual calm character and straight up tell him to f*ck off. I have zero interest in making a person like that close to me. He plays a bit of guitar and he tried my little Blackstar Fly 3 at some point before he truly creeped me out (awesome little amp for the price, btw) and he liked it. He casually said to me a few days later "yeah, I should come to your house more often to play through your amp-" which I interrupted with "OOORRR, or... you could get your own amp and play in your own house," which is an awfully edgy thing for me to say to someone. He noticed my unhappiness, but he hasn't quite gotten the hint yet though.
He also smells like vegetables that are going bad. It's not a nice odour and it hangs around for a while. Talks way too much about masturbation (funny how SSO banned that word) and about his porn fetishes. He also came to me the morning after the first time he payed for sex and how he felt really guilty and lonely, and went into explicit detail about the kind of prostitute he "ordered," how he couldn't finish and how had to finish himself off after she left, and about the things he did to her and what he wanted to do. That was kind of the straw that broke the camel's back for me.
Sorry for all the verbal diarrhea, but this has me pretty upset recently.
I feel for all the people out there who have actual, real, proven stalkers. I hope it doesn't come to that for me.
I bought a new (used) car on Friday; basically the nicest thing I could afford; realistically it's actually out of my price range entirely but my wife's family gave us some money. Today, Tuesday, I'm driving past a gas station on the corner of a 4 way intersection with a stop light. Light is red, I'm going for the left lane to make my left, but someone coming out of the gas station intends to cut across the stopped cars in the right two lanes to make a left turn. I guess he doesn't see that I'm driving to the front of the left lane and pokes his front bumper out, I try to swerve but he still barely hits my car. At this point the light is green and I'm in the middle of the intersection, so I make the turn just to get out of there but I stop at the next parking lot. However, from the time I've gone past the car I can see in my rear-view mirror that he's already made his left and is driving away.
Like, why can't I ever have nice things? I can't have a new car for even a week without some asshole cutting 2 grand of body work out of it? And the guy can't even stick around... though I imagine he may have thought I was running, too, if he didn't see me stop. But honestly, I go out of my way to avoid having expensive things because I know that the universe will never let me have something that isn't beat up. And I don't understand why that is. It's not as though I'm reckless with my things. But it's gotten to the point that I cringe when someone gives me a cashmere sweater because my mind just says the moment you wear this it is already ruined. Cars as well, apparently.
Like, why can't I ever have nice things? I can't have a new car for even a week without some asshole cutting 2 grand of body work out of it? And the guy can't even stick around... though I imagine he may have thought I was running, too, if he didn't see me stop. But honestly, I go out of my way to avoid having expensive things because I know that the universe will never let me have something that isn't beat up. And I don't understand why that is. It's not as though I'm reckless with my things. But it's gotten to the point that I cringe when someone gives me a cashmere sweater because my mind just says the moment you wear this it is already ruined. Cars as well, apparently.
Sumsar
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Not mad, more of a wtf moment:
So I just discovered/remembered that speakers are basicly just huge magnets.
I was rewiring my 2 x 12 (8 ohms) cab from being a 4 ohm cab to a 16 ohm cab so when I put the (hot) soldering iron near the speaker it was almost ribbed out of my hand and the soldering iron stuck fairly good to the speaker frame (like as a strong fridge magnet).
I got the job done and all is well, didn't hurt myself or the speaker, but just got a big shock. Also, as a physicist I fell somewhat dumb ..
So I just discovered/remembered that speakers are basicly just huge magnets.
I was rewiring my 2 x 12 (8 ohms) cab from being a 4 ohm cab to a 16 ohm cab so when I put the (hot) soldering iron near the speaker it was almost ribbed out of my hand and the soldering iron stuck fairly good to the speaker frame (like as a strong fridge magnet).
I got the job done and all is well, didn't hurt myself or the speaker, but just got a big shock. Also, as a physicist I fell somewhat dumb ..
Emperor Guillotine
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I've been dealing with a very, very frustrating situation with a seller (who also happens to be a member on here). He has a guitar that I've been after for over a year. He agreed to sell it to me and we reached an agreement on pric and terms. Before I could send the payment, he quit responding to my messages and didn't send me the payment info. He has now been reading and blatantly ignoring my messages (no response whatsoever) for nearly two and a half months.
Typically, this would not bug me, but this is a guitar that I've been after for so long. We had an agreement in writing, and I was literally a few minutes away from sending him the money.....and now it all is f*cking gone. My patience is at an end with his rude, disrespectful behavior. At least man-the-f*ck-up and take five seconds to send me a message telling me that the deal is off. Don't waste two and a half months of my time with the silent treatment bullsh*t.
Edit/update: made a post this morning warning others away from doing business with this time-waster. He blocked me within the hour. So I guess that is my confirmation that he was indeed reading my attempts at correspondence and he was just being a rude, disrespectful asshat. Apparently, he did this same thing with someone else as well.
Typically, this would not bug me, but this is a guitar that I've been after for so long. We had an agreement in writing, and I was literally a few minutes away from sending him the money.....and now it all is f*cking gone. My patience is at an end with his rude, disrespectful behavior. At least man-the-f*ck-up and take five seconds to send me a message telling me that the deal is off. Don't waste two and a half months of my time with the silent treatment bullsh*t.
Edit/update: made a post this morning warning others away from doing business with this time-waster. He blocked me within the hour. So I guess that is my confirmation that he was indeed reading my attempts at correspondence and he was just being a rude, disrespectful asshat. Apparently, he did this same thing with someone else as well.
Mosquito bites.
Jake
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broke my wrist for the 2nd time....sigh
LLeaDD
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I hate the cold cut throat corporate world. Instead of working together everyone is just out for themselves. It's weird because normally these people aren't like this with family, friends or neighbors. Who said we have to be pitted against each other?
ThePhilosopher
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I've got a sore throat/losing my voice (I was going to start tracking some vocals soon). I also installed my Hipshot locking tuners and one of them is just a little crooked, it's not super noticeable; but the screw head popped off as I was screwing it into the headstock so it's going to stay that way. 
broj15
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yet another flat tire... not even my fault this time. I was turning right off a side street onto the main road while some bitch was coming onto the same side street i was turning off of, except she cut the corner waaaaay to sharp. It was either drag my back tire over the curb (thus putting a nasty gash in my sidewall) or hit her drivers side. I wouldn't be as pissed if she had stopped, but of course she just kept driving. People suck...
High Plains Drifter
... drifting...
Really disappointed... in myself I guess.
Fender Duo Sonic that I've been working tirelessly on now for a few months will not be finished in time to give to an awesome little girl for her birthday. So fu@king down on myself because I can't get the answers that I'm seeking re: wiring. Stupid to think I could pull this off I guess. I'll still keep at it but her birthday is fast approaching and here I am with what I thought was going to be the perfect gift... nowhere near completion.
Had I been smarter regarding wiring schematics, this thing would be just about done, I'm sure. I'm used to failing myself... just not used to failing others. Just... forget it.
tl;dr I suck.
Fender Duo Sonic that I've been working tirelessly on now for a few months will not be finished in time to give to an awesome little girl for her birthday. So fu@king down on myself because I can't get the answers that I'm seeking re: wiring. Stupid to think I could pull this off I guess. I'll still keep at it but her birthday is fast approaching and here I am with what I thought was going to be the perfect gift... nowhere near completion.
Had I been smarter regarding wiring schematics, this thing would be just about done, I'm sure. I'm used to failing myself... just not used to failing others. Just... forget it.
tl;dr I suck.
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So P was sitting at a light, 2nd behind 1st guy, with an F-350 behind her a few feet back. Light changes, 1st guy doesn't go, P doesn't go, dude behind her was obviously driving the light and not traffic, and didn't realize no one moved. Stomps the gas and does this:
Untitled by Lord Funktfied, on Flickr
Untitled by Lord Funktfied, on Flickr
Jacked the trunk lid, back bumper and taillights. She's ok, but my load isn't.
Best thing about it besides the fact that she's fine is the fact that she had the auto lock on, which means the car won't move AT ALL, so she didn't slam the guy in front of her. Cops gave him a ticket, I called this morning and he already filed a claim. Hoping this resolves nicely, I'm too busy for any crap from his insurance company.
Irked as hell.
Untitled by Lord Funktfied, on FlickrUntitled by Lord Funktfied, on FlickrJacked the trunk lid, back bumper and taillights. She's ok, but my load isn't.
Best thing about it besides the fact that she's fine is the fact that she had the auto lock on, which means the car won't move AT ALL, so she didn't slam the guy in front of her. Cops gave him a ticket, I called this morning and he already filed a claim. Hoping this resolves nicely, I'm too busy for any crap from his insurance company.
Irked as hell.
Jacksonluvr636
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There's this one guy that I've had quite a few courses with, and he is driving me nuts this semester. He's both an opportunist and quite a creep, and I'm both angry and spooked out. I decided to ignore red flags upon first meeting him and I gave him the benefit of the doubt, and it's come around to kick me in the ass.
He's a lazy f*ck who won't come to class because he's being a lazy sh*t and who will leave the class halfway through because "he can't concentrate" and then asks for my notes. He'd literally be 3-4 hours late, on repeated occasions, when we set up a time to go to university to study together, and then he'd just sit down and start reading manga online and browsing Facebook. Then he'd just mooch off of the work I did while he wasn't there.
On top of that, he seems to think I'm his best friend now and calls me late at night (past midnight) just to see what I'm doing, and he'll just self-invite to my place and would want to do something every f*cking day. He thinks that an invitation (read: a self-invitation that I approved) to come to my place to study is synonymous with coming to my place and being a couch potato.
He'll text me "hey man what u up to?" at 2pm on a Wednesday before class, when I'm just sitting on my desk still in my underwear watching Netflix and eating instant noodles before I have to leave for class. I tell him exactly what I am doing, and he just goes "mind if I join u?" Like, dude, come on, I am currently half brain dead and just overall being a completely idle waste of space before I have to begin getting ready, (and so does he, we have class together) why would you want to join me doing that? Piss off, watch your own TV at home and let me be before I head to school.
Before, he'd give me rides from school to my place, and he'd begin telling me extremely personal things (most of which are things that have left me feeling pretty uncomfortable.
He's said some things recently that have made me suspicious, maybe even paranoid, and I fear he's taking a liking to me just a little bit too much, despite his constant inappropriate commentary on gay people. (Which pisses me the f*ck off, btw, and which I have kept very cool about, trying to rebut his arguments in as rational and non-confrontational a manner as I possibly can.) I am normally extremely flattered and sympathetic when I know someone likes me, and I try to be very considerate of that person's feelings, but he's been creeping me out way too much the past couple of weeks for me to give a sh*t that way, assuming my suspicions are correct. (I've brought this to the attention of a couple of my actual closest friends and they seem to think the same.)
I had an exchange via text with him a little while ago while I was in class (and he wasn't, as usual) that creeped me the f*ck out. He wanted me to meet up with him after class so he could copy my notes. Not wanting a confrontation but also not wanting to come across as a d!ck, (which I don't think I should even care for at this point) I told him to come during the 5-minute break we always have during class. He said he wasn't at school, (which is odd because he'd just texted me he could come 'now', and to which I replied that the class was still ongoing) and asked if I could meet him the day after so he could get my class notes. I'm already kinda creeped out by his pushiness, and I tell him I can just take pictures of my notes and send them to him, and that way it was easier for me and for him. Then he just goes "or I can pass by ur place after to take notes/pics?" and I get even more frustrated. Why on f*cking Earth do you want to see me SO bad?! I just told him that I wasn't gonna spend the night at my place, and that I was going somewhere else. Then he says "Oh ok, sure, send me the pics. Btw, do you mind if I give you a call when you are done with class?" At this point, I'm pretty freaked out, and I'm having trouble concentrating in class. Now, my family is currently in town visiting me and my sister, so I just used the excuse that I'd be with family and that I couldn't speak, and I asked him straight up what he wanted. He just answers "Sorry, just wanted to ask u what kind of stuff we covered tonight in class... forget that then haha." and I can't help but still be freaked out and think he was just covering his ass and not telling me what's up. Surely you'd find out what we covered in class when I sent you the damn notes, what the hell do you actually want?! But I left it at that. I did send him the pics after a while of me coming home, and he said thanks in an awfully cheerful manner and offered to buy me a beer soon. Not even gonna answer that.
Knowing the stuff he's done, the way he is with other people, and from the way he talks about the stuff he does, it's getting to the point where I feel like he just stalks me and is obsessed with me in one way or another. It's pretty unsettling. He stresses me the sh*t out, and if he keeps being this damn pushy and creepy I'm gonna have to break out of my usual calm character and straight up tell him to f*ck off. I have zero interest in making a person like that close to me. He plays a bit of guitar and he tried my little Blackstar Fly 3 at some point before he truly creeped me out (awesome little amp for the price, btw) and he liked it. He casually said to me a few days later "yeah, I should come to your house more often to play through your amp-" which I interrupted with "OOORRR, or... you could get your own amp and play in your own house," which is an awfully edgy thing for me to say to someone. He noticed my unhappiness, but he hasn't quite gotten the hint yet though.
He also smells like vegetables that are going bad. It's not a nice odour and it hangs around for a while. Talks way too much about masturbation (funny how SSO banned that word) and about his porn fetishes. He also came to me the morning after the first time he payed for sex and how he felt really guilty and lonely, and went into explicit detail about the kind of prostitute he "ordered," how he couldn't finish and how had to finish himself off after she left, and about the things he did to her and what he wanted to do. That was kind of the straw that broke the camel's back for me.
Sorry for all the verbal diarrhea, but this has me pretty upset recently.
I feel for all the people out there who have actual, real, proven stalkers. I hope it doesn't come to that for me.
Post of the year.
Demiurge
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I just saw the thread and gave some input, if it helps. You can definitely do this. What's your deadline?
High Plains Drifter
... drifting...
I sincerely wasn't expecting... well... was just venting, so thank you very much. Her birthday is the 27th but her party is on Sunday the 26th. She's a trooper... fighting a pretty horrible disease and she's an aspiring [albeit young] "musician" too. This guitar was on it's way to the trash heap when I intervened and decided it would be a great project for me and hopefully a great gift for her. I had no idea how complex it would all be but that just made me even more determined to save it as I delved deeper into it.
At this point the body is almost finished, the frets have been leveled and polished, and I have the new pick-guard and all the hardware ( some of it new/ some orig) ready to go in. The electronics screwed me up because I guess it was wired wrong and it's been tough figuring out how it's supposed to go. Tons of info on the Duo Sonic but not much on the re-issue and I know that they are different to some degree. Freaked me out cause I can't have this thing be a shock/ fire hazard. By the time I posted in THIS thread, I had really exhausted every resource that I could think of.
At least my misfortune has had a positive effect somewhere out there.
But yeah, he's still at it. My family's still here, so I still have a good excuse to use. He'd call me at least once a day and send me at least one or two texts per day, sometimes even more. He keeps wanting to meet up with me to "study." I didn't answer for just shy of a week and I kept screening his many calls.
When I finally went back to class and he saw me, he seemed preoccupied. We were both standing within our group of friends (i.e. my group of friends that he just randomly joined) and he just wouldn't talk to or look at me. I was so happy. Then he finally asks me how I was doing, and I just tell him I was good. He then blurts out "yeah, I couldn't sleep last night..." ....... like
... Then, in a cracking voice as though he's holding himself back, he suddenly says to me "yeah, you've been very hard to get a hold of recently." Like dude, GET THE F*CKING HINT. I once again told him I'd been busy and had been with family. No details. He just kept talking about some stuff he had going on while I listened to what other people in the group were talking about. I completely ignore this guy, and he just keeps talking to me. I don't understand it.Then yesterday, at school, I'd brought I slice of pizza I'd bought to eat in class (it's a 3-hour lecture on mechanical vibrations and my brain needs some sustenance.) and, of course, I had some napkins, which I put on the desk next to me. He sits next to me at the beginning of the class and I see him grab one of my napkins, which he uses to draw quite an elaborate "
" smiley on it. He proceeds to give it to me... I smile awkwardly and use it right away to wipe the pizza grease off of my face... yeah, I don't f*cking get it either. I'm normally not nice to anyone who is an asshole to me. 
The rest of the lecture, while the professor spoke, he just browsed Facebook and read random sh!t online on his phone. Every 20-or-so minutes he'd turn around and take a picture of the notes I'd taken. He'd spend the next 5 copying them down without listening to the prof. Eventually I told him to stop being a goddamn sloth and to take his own notes. He turned around and asked the person on his other side to give him their notes. Uuugghhhh.
What's weird is that I have always been quite good at choosing my friends and who I hang out with and, whenever I've gone too far, I've been good at weeding them out. However, I've had no luck in plucking this particularly tough weed out of the ground successfully, and I have a feeling it'll take a bit more effort.
Don't get me wrong though, I do think I understand where he's coming from (dude's lonely, basically, and feeds his own loneliness with a crippling internet addiction) and I do feel bad for this guy. I hate that I'm doing this to him, and it's the reason that I have taken a more passive-aggressive approach (assuming outright ignoring can be taken as passive-aggressiveness...), but I'm not willing to put up with his sh*t, and it isn't my job to fix any of his problems, much as he'd want me to. I have already told him a while ago that I think his underlying issues warrant professional help, and I told him the wonders that said kind of help has done for me in the past. I don't owe him any more than that. I have enough issues of my own that I am working very hard to fix, and being around a person like him would just set me back or, worse, bring me back to where I was before.
Again, I'm sorry that I'm ranting so much about this, but it honestly does make me upset.
MFB
Banned
Just tell him to fvck off and be done with it if he's that dense. You'll probably feel bad afterwards, but it's necessary.
flint757
Well-Known Member
Came to say just that, although if done in a direct assertive way it can be done without having to be said so harshly. If you calmly say, "We have nothing in common, I take school very seriously, I do not appreciate you slacking and then essentially stealing the work I've done, and I have enough problems that fixing yours are not something I'm willing to do. Perhaps you'd be better off trying to be friends with someone else as my tolerance has been eroded away. I've been distant because I don't want to hang out with you".
Still harsh, but nothing is rude or necessarily said in anger. If that still doesn't work definitely tell him to "fvck off and just leave me alone".
