Why is there hesitancy regarding confrontation? (besides the glaring car issues).
Have y'all been working together for a while now and are people uncomfortable escalating the lack of resolve from her side?
The problem doesn't sound like she's not being confronted, it's that the proposed solutions to these issues have not been escalated.
I mean there is always the uncomfortableness of having to discuss these issues with a band member you've been with for 6 years. At this point though I am over it and feel like to move forward she just need to be fired. But since we treat the band as a democracy and there is no real "leader" and I like the rest of the guys enough I will respect their desire to have the meeting and air it out even though I think we all know what is going to happen and/or needs to happen.
gonna agree with @TedEH shes a singer, she's not lugging cabs and amps and guitars anywhere. No excuse even car issues. Sounds like you guys also live in a metropolitan area, there are plenty of ways to get around without a car, even in the boonies. This is a joke to her if she can't make rehearsal. I wouldnt even kick her out, just ghost her at this point, not even joking, after all that disrespect.
It's really ridiculous. She acts like a child if you bring up her car issues and reference how she drives her car back and forth to the beach but then can't make it to rehearsals because its broke. You'd think if you knew your car was not running well or you only had a few rides left you would prioritize the things you need to get to that make you money, right? But she will act like we are telling her what to do with her free time or telling her she can't go out and have fun. Well, when your problems start affecting this job in negative ways it gives us every right to say something. If this was a normal 9-5 job and she acted like this or did similar things she would've been let go already.