SenorDingDong
Smeller of Smells
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So we're in agreement that it's just a term to refer to the two separate ideas of white privilege and toxic masculinity but simultaneously.
Seems needless to me. Like asking for "red french fry ketchup" at a drive-thru. And I think it is a disservice to toxic masculinity issues that exist among non-whites, which as I've suggested earlier has even deeper roots--probably because of white privilege.
White privilege, in theory, will fight against toxic masculinity (for white people), by showing them better opportunity to get a proper education and more non-toxicly-masculine role models.
Growing up in a community with a relatively high Hispanic population, it always seemed like the toxic masculinity pushed on those kids was way worse than what was pushed on me. I've seen Latino kids scolded by their fathers for crying, even hit. While my white dad just gave me a hug and said it's OK to cry. IDK...
I live about 30 minutes from Detroit. I see far more toxic masculinity perpetuated by the overwhelmingly low income black community that comes from Detroit than any other community/collective/culture I have ever seen, having lived many places from NYC, Montreal, CT, GA, etc. We aren't talking the generic, white guy who pushes his kid to play football, calls him a pussy if he wants to quit and berates and belittles him and emasculates him--we're talking, a culture built around men needing to prove themselves and their manhood in every interaction, from appearance (fighting over sneaker dirtying is something I've seen more times than I can count, physical altercations over perceived insults to style, etc), money (fighting over single digit amounts, shootings, etc), and so many more examples.
In fact, in my industry, we have a lot of ground-level positions filled with lower income men from Detroit and we have to get training specifically to learn how to deal with their culture/behaviour/aggressiveness. We don't need those classes about women from Detroit, they genuinely focus ONLY on men. Security has to escort management to their vehicles for a 2-week period following terminations of certain employees, as there have been too many assaults following firings. Our entire training is based around the high level of toxicity and dangerous nature of the male culture in Detroit, and the potential danger of even giving off the perception of a slight to male employees from said city.
Again, with the women, we have little to no issue, save for attendance.
The thing is, while their may be a modicum of truth in the idea behind toxic white masculinity, as all races have a sliding scale of toxicity in the way their men are raised, the most dangerous cities in our country are an overwhelming product of non-white toxic male culture. I watch grown men in their 30s try to prove themselves daily by getting in heated verbal and often physical altercations over their manhood and their need for 'respect.' Less than 10% of those cases (I work in HR) are from white men. Overwhelmingly, they are black men from inner-city Detroit working on the lines. There is also an over-whelming pack mentality in which those who do not fit into the 'typical' or 'appropriately deemed' 'black guy from Detroit' mentality are mercilessly bullied and belittled and racially insulted by their black peers.
The amount of assaults perpetrated by said class is astonishingly disproportionate when compared to their non-African-American peers.
Is there male toxicity? Yes. Do I believe that the most overwhelming case in our country is white men? I'll drop you off on W Chicago St and let you find out for yourself. Then, whatever is left of you I'll drop off in some snobby, shit-nosed suburb with 'white male toxicity' prevelancy, such as Livonia. You can tell me which was most in need of being addressed and spotlighted.